For some, this means enlisting extra support to give them peace of mind, and that’s where Carter-Harris Investigations come into play.
Daniel Shaw, Senior Investigator at Carter-Harris Investigations, told us that investigations are conducted across many fields.
‘We primarily deal with surveillance and tracking, but we also conduct database work and internet investigations. It varies from case to case,’ he said.
Investigations usually begin with a phone call to the client, which sees the investigator ask several detailed questions to establish the best plan of attack.
Shaw says the Carter-Harris agency also handles an array of other investigative work.
‘Private investigation is a small industry. We take on anything from council work to companies trying to catch out employees taking a sickie.’
Shaw added ‘most of our results come from conventional surveillance, which includes the use of forensic tools, hidden cameras and night-vision equipment.’
‘We have also received multiple requests for honey-trapping jobs, where a decoy is sent into a partners favourite watering hole or gym to flirt with them and see what happens next, to catch out infidelity before it has even happened.’
Infidelity rates in the UK were recently released and the results will shock you. Almost half (45 per cent) of British men admit to straying from their significant other at least once. And a considerable 21 per cent of UK women said the same. (source: incontri-extraconiugali.com)
Our victim ‘Gill’ explained to us what it was like when she discovered her husband had been having an affair behind her back.
‘I did not want to believe it. It's....it's just a fog of total disbelief. I put some guilt on myself. It's so painful. I just wanted to believe nothing was happening, until I just had to.’
It's the life-shattering moment that takes its victims by surprise: Finding out your spouse has betrayed you.
That's exactly what happened to ‘Gill’, who asked that we conceal her identity. Eight years into her marriage, she began to notice changes.
‘He was so clearly distant. Very little conversation. Lots of places to go during the day’, Gill told us.
Her relationship was dissolving. He found someone else. But how did she know? In fact, how does anyone know if their significant other, is no longer significant?
Private Investigator, Shaw told us ‘If your gut is telling you something is not right, 99 percent of the time it's right.’
Shaw has been a Private Investigator for 17 years. When the possibility of infidelity is on the table, he says there are many red flags to watch out for.
‘The physical changes are one of the most obvious. Caring all the time about how they dress,’ Shaw said ‘The spouse is coming home late. They are taking their phone with them, everywhere. The code is locked or different. Face down. On silent.’
Shaw says that smartphone could be the key that tells all. Are they overly protective by sleeping with it under the pillow? Can you see what's on their phone? Are there dating apps, or messaging apps like Snapchat that delete messages once they're read? That could suggest intent to find something outside of the marriage.
Another warning sign?
‘They haven't been having sexual relations in years and suddenly there's a bottle of Viagra,’ Shaw told us.
He suggests hiring a professional because they have the tools to legally collect evidence.
Shaw said, ‘Carter-Harris Investigations is ICO registered for Private Investigation services in respect of the way the agency gather and handle data.’
‘There are a number of tools available to us including, for example; professional online forensic analysis and detailed background profiling’
Now if you want to go about this on your own, you have options.
‘You can go to the on-line spy stores or big e-tailers and there's hundreds of things you can get’ Shaw said.
But it doesn't mean they're legal, so you want to make sure the evidence collected wasn't obtained illegally, so its admissible in court.
‘There's a lot of different ways that people can get caught, and they do get caught. And that's where we step in,’ Shaw told us.
As for Gill, she's moved on since her divorce.
‘It can be a great thing to get rid of someone so toxic in your life that you're living with’, Gill said.
Something to keep in mind, there are many products on the market that allow you track or record a suspected loved one's actions. It's not illegal to buy them, but it could be illegal based on the way you use them. Before going about this alone, experts say it's best to consult with a professional Private Investigator or Solicitor.
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